- Suddenly I am very sensitive when people ask if Luke is my only child. I don’t know if I should say yes, no because I now have two babies in Heaven, or simply cry.
- Newborns now fill me with a sense of longing like something is missing, I have also cried upon seeing pregnant woman, and at baby announcements.
- Weight gain. Even though I lost both babies in the first trimester, they left significant impacts on my body. At first I thought I was simply swelling from the trauma of miscarriage, but now I believe the hormonal swing affected my metabolism causing sudden significant weight gain that is taking months to normalize again.
- Significant body self consciousness. Before we lost our first baby in July I felt good when looking in the mirror. Now I feel betrayal and notice the unsightly soft bumpy curves; the same shape that represented a growing baby just weeks prior are now hollow reminders that my womb is empty.
- My dreams now haunt me, over the 6 months since my first loss I have had at least 5 dreams of being pregnant or holding my new newborn baby. Every time, I wake with my arms aching to hold my baby.
- Initially, I was very open and shared my journey with strangers whom asked. Now I hate talking about it… All too often people’s comments cause far more pain then comfort.
- I now understand that the impression this kind of loss leaves does not quickly heal, it scars you forever. I also have learned that people don’t understand this, they expect you to just “wait a while and try again”… As though my miscarriage is simply a failed attempt to create life instead of a tragic loss so soon.
- Every time you have your period is now triggers a form of PTSD, I cry and ache for the babies I have lost.
- Finally, I have found that with each loss my aching for a healthy baby intensifies, but now it is accompanied by fear that nothing is guaranteed.
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Dr. Patricia Bast was born and raised in Southern California. After earning her bachelors degree at UC Irvine, she went on to graduate medical school from Touro University College of Osteopathic Medicine in Northern California. She then returned home to Southern California and became a resident in Pediatrics at Loma Linda Children’s Hospital. Dr. Bast is now raising her children and loves working part-time at a pediatric clinic, watching her patients grow and thrive.